friendship...don't be presumptious

this post is supposed to be for coming sunday.
sundaes are for relaxation -- good bytes, nice appetitie, weakday indulgence.

don't read me if you are not inclined towards finding friendship, in reality or in blogosphere. or at least find out what a writHer has to say about it.

and I'm not an expert in this subject, so don't throw pies in my face.
furthermore, i'm gifting thee free reading, so beggars can't be choosers.
if some of my sharing rings a belle, and for a male, makes thy balls swing in synchronicity, well, at least I've struck a chord or two. if i fail, then put a cord around thy neck -- one potential friendship less is not my loss.

why do I write such a funny post today?
well, a monday induces blues, so such morose thoughts are in line with conventional wisdom on what a monday constitutes.

life, death, and fRiendship.
if you take out that "R", you get a monster, that's why i spelt it that way to call your attention to the difference. be careful when you type out this word on your pc, you don't want to make a fatal 'mistake' sending out that love note to your dearest
f iend. (i would have typed 'miss-take' if i had been in normal frame of mind, but this too serious a topic to seek my ddc indulgence, so i refrain.)

DON't be presumptious.

(1) the potential friend is able to read your mind -- so rule number 1, don't presume you know him/her as a soulmate.

(2) the potential friend may just see you as a crazee nut out of timbuktoo -- so rule number 2, don't presume he/she is sane like you. No, assume he/she could also have just escaped from tg rambutan, or timbucktree.

(3) the potential friend may not say what he/she means, or he/she may not mean what he/she says. (i spend much time writing/repeating "he/she" because the other party could be male, female; if it's an in-between, i can tell from a mile away. (if you don't mind, i'm not inclined towards seeking friendship in that department. you don't like it, that's your problem, not mind.)

So rule number 3, don't presume all people are naturally honest, saying what they mean, and meaning what they say.

in fact, my conclusion is that people are born naturally inclined towards dishonesty.
people have to earn a living.
peoiple have to go one up on the neighbour.
people want to win the race.
most important of all, people want to lok good, feel good and want you to say they are good. regardless...
people in malaysia want to do better than singaporeans.
people in malaysian want to do better than americans.
people in malaysia want to do better than mainland china chinese.

but some Malaysians, or most malaysians, are intellectually dishonest.
if they are honest, they would have to admit they are just not up-to-it racing against the americanoes, singaporelese ...
maybe for now, as for mainland chinoserie, malaysians can still compete with them because they had locked themselves up for a few decades. but in a few more decades, malaysians will also not be able to race against the mainland chinoserie.

now i have given three presumptions to avoid regarding seeking friends or friendship, it's only intellectually honest that desi must admit: my advice may be wrong or deficient.

in which case,then you tell me.
treat this as *Desi's Meme.

* It's another abnormality -- eccentricity you may term it -- i am making an exception the my own golden riu=ule not to easily take part in meme, now i'm creating one myself. blame it on monday blues. the cows have not come home. and the angels are still on the roam. and fRiends -- what f iends? -- they are all in rome, just doing as what the romans normally do.