Today’s post is one postponed from last Monday, because Desiderata had planned for a GOoDNewsweek starting warm September 5, but as I said yesterday, Reality sometimes Bites. So I have to bite the bullet again, sorry folks. If you’re inclined towards depression, please be advised the journey is far and long and arduous for this Thursday's child ... Don't linger, go back to enjoying TUESDAYS WITH MORRIE...Or buy Catherine De Costa's A CHALLENGE TO LOVE, but it's rated 18SX according to one of mGf, so keep away from there2. I understand most of you are under the age of non-dissent, aren't you!
Cutting to the chase (see I’m really trying level best to chase thee away from BadNewsday!) – see page 17, The Star, September 5 news item reprised here:
Teen found hanged after being scolded by mum
JOHOR BARU: A 13-year-old girl was found hanged by her younger brother at their home in Permas Jaya here.
It is learnt that M. Sugumary, the eldest of three children, had gone up to her room after being scolded by her mother on Saturday.
The girl’s mother had asked her to bring in the laundry when it started to drizzle at around 2pm.
When Sugumary procrastinated saying she would do it later, her mother scolded her.
After neing reprimanded, she went up to her room, and only came down at around 5pm for a drink before going back upstairs.
Johor Baru (South) acting OCPD Supt Idris Ismail said the girl’s father sent her younger brother up to her room at 7pm to ask her to come down.
“When the boy opened the room door, he saw his sister’s lifeless body hanging from the fan with a towel arpund the neck,” he said.
Thus goes another heart-breaking story of a Malaysian teenager who could not think rationally at a crucial short moement –- and maybe for lack of a fRiend to talk to -- a Young Life was lost forever. IF only … there are just TOO MANY “if”s in life, and Desi is not going to add more to the list.
What I’m trying to say is directed to ALLParents&Teachers out there. Teenagers today are all living in a very stressful environment – yesterday’s feedback from Readers, even YoungOnes but more discerning, about the KeepingUpWithTheHones syndrome being very much alive, whether in Malaysia or overseas. Pressuring the child to get maximum As in term tests, not even in public exams, rushing them Here,There&Everywhere for tuition, followed by Ballet or Piano lessons. There is no more time for Leisure,..no time to stand and stare ...as WH Davies said in his poem.
Kyels reported that even a child at age SEVEN is pushed to best the neighbourhood peers and rewarded RM100 for an A in Bahasa Malaysia. Then the rush to Art or Music class -- Bah! Kyels exclaimed.
This modern stress and strain placed on young shoulders would have unexpected repercussions. Parents caught in similar situations like young Sugumary have to live a life full of regrets, and tears.
To MyYoungfRiends a few of whom I became acquainted due to YAN's fRiendship via IgnorantCows.blospot.com like Timothy Su, and one who deemed himself “insignificant” but in reality is quite the Opposite, Desi says: GOoD on you, for being involved in more maningful activities and sharing&caring. This young teenagers in Sarawak have banded together to form what I believe is the first TeenagersWeBlog to write daily journals of school life and youth activities and to foster fRiendships to help each other along. At those tender gropwing years, peer pressure is definitely a challenge, as Timothy wrote in one Posting that Desi quoted. And parents and teachers must be able to help these teenagers cope with these youthful challenges, and not allow situations similar or close to Sugumary's to develop.
Yesterday I saluted people like Mr Coww who dedicate themselves to true Service Above Self. There is another brigade out there – people involved in Volunteer-ing activities who should be accorded high regard too. They find time and efforts to devote themselves to make Others happy, give some cheer to the less privileged and fortunate in society. Desi salutes these Samaritans working on the QuietFront.
Contrast them with another group, which we cannot deny also exist – people who hanker to sit in so-called charitable offices, but actually not even remotely motivated by charitable objectives. They seek public acclaim. They seek medals and honours. They chase for those funny prefixes and suffixes we see now in abundance in front of their natural names, such as …..JKR, JJR, PPN, PPM and whatNOTorIDIOTs, I’d better not name them, one of two LanSi among them may just sue Desi, and Desiderata2000 may just do a disappearing act, and surely my EsteemedReaders do not want that, do you! (that's another rhetorical Q!). And I’m already half a pauper, so I can't afford a courtly suit! Just verify with Mr Coww – he likes to compare me with a Church Mouse:( when I liken him to that which goes Moo-Moo:).
To teenage school children caught in “tough” situations, please seek advice from the School Counsellor, or consult your FavouriteAuntie (still thriving at certain gardens) or Uncle (dying species I believe…), I’m no authority. Maybe seek out a church pastor, temple priest or any sort of certified spiritual adviser in moments of crisis.
Today I’m inclined to do some community service because I can’t accept Mr Coww’s challenge to go on a spirit-filled mission where at the end of the day, night does not fall, it’s always rainbow on the horizon. I wished girls like Sugumary had encountered the likes of Mr Coww and Others in the same domain -- To this legion of dedicated men of calling, God Bless them every step along the Sacrifice Way. For the Young&IgnorantCowws who steal peeps at Blogs like Desi’s, please hold the following number in your wallet. Don’t Do anything rash when you’re upset and without a mate you can talk to. In an Emergency when your Heart bleeds like Hell, please call the counsellers at:
Befrienders: 03-7956-8144.
A Prayer for ALLtheChildrenOfTheWorld
"Let every child be touched by an Angel
Let a Guardian Angel watch his every step
Let him/her go safely yonder to school&play
Let him/her come home dancing to Dad&Mum every day." - Amen/Amin (c)YLChong 8.9.05
Song: I Have a Dream Lyrics
Artist: Lisa Stokke Lyrics
SOPHIE:
I have a dream
A song to sing
To help me cope
With anything
If you see the wonder
Of a fairy tale
You can take the future
Even if you fail
I believe in angels
Something good in everything I see
I believe in angels
When I know the time is right for me
I'll cross the stream
I have a dream
COMPANY:
I have a dream
A fantasy
To help me through
Reality
And my destination
Makes it worth the while
Pushing through the darkness
Still another mile
I believe in angels
Something good in everything I see
I believe in angels
When I know the time is right for me
I'll cross the stream
I have a dream
I'll cross the stream
SOPHIE:
I have a dream
I'll cross the stream
I have a dream
13 comments:
Finally i read a post relating to suicide that does not judge the person
who has taken their own life.Only two days ago i emailed Kyels and in that email i wrote of youth suicide.I feel unless a person has been there or lost another to suicide , the emotions are hard to understand.I have lost six friends to suicide and as i write this i feel sadness and try had to hold back the tears.Australia has one of the highest youth suicide rates in the world , and it makes me wonder why its called the lucky country.
I also read that Japans youth suicide is extremely high.
Anyways Desi im lost in thought, this a very good post i hope others will follow your post and add the number on their blog also.
tcz
hi sweets
funnily enough we studied that NZ has the highest youth suicide rates in the world.
and sadly enough, dentist are the 2nd highest profession which has the highest suicide rates.
i can totally relate to you, sweets. i have been down that road before, but thankfully i didn't go all the way.
many people think that i am stupid to think of such an option.
sometimes when you just do not have any motivation at all to live, when the things that are most precious to you disappointed you, life at that time seems bleak.
On hindsight, yes, you can say to yourself that you were stupid. Yet at that moment, you just wanted to give up and let go of the things around you.
THe most important thing is to listen to your friends. Most often the people who are contemplating suicide shows signs and symptoms that they have lost hope in life.
Don't lecture them/nag them. Just be there for them. Show small gestures that you care. The last thing that they need is a lecture which would drive them up the wall, accelerating the process.
*hope it's my 2 cents' worth?* i might not be accurate.
is it just me or are most teenage/jiwang/troubled indians either poisoning themselves with weed killer/ratpoison/cheap liquor or hanging themselves from ceiling fans?
Not being racist, but yeah thats just my observation.
I guess youths are being really immature and it leads on to committing suicide. I am not blaming the deceased but however they could have calmed down, think rationally and also think of the consequences of what will happen when they've decided on a decision.
Moreover, committing suicide will not help because it's like you're running away from the problem. Be brave, face the problem, solve it.
Easier said than done but if all the youths in life have these kind of thinking... The suicide rate will not be high at all...
*shrugs and sighed*
Yes, heartbreaking news it was.
Hi Sab
Yes indeed i can relate with you on this as i two have been there ,but i won't go into detail.My views on this are few ppl understand that when a persons reaches such a low ,the real world doesn't exist on the level that they see it.
So Kyels i can tell your views are of those that have never come close to the reality of such , an i hope you never do.
For honestly it is the easy way out,
especially when life deals more than a person can take.
So think for a moment of our non perfect world where children are physically , mentality,sexually abused by those that are supose to care and then maybe your thoughts may change.
Sab
Thanks so much for being upfront and tcz gal
hi sweets: no worries!! just hoping that no one would go down that road.
for the remainding ppl, i guess yes, we can say that the people who attempt suicide are stupid, yet at the same time we have to put ourselves into the person's shoes on why he/she chose that.
i am not defending the people who try that. after being through that, i think if a person has THAT much courage to kill oneself, i am sure he/she has that much courage to continue the battles.
it all depends on what that person's value of life is. some people live because of their family, their lover, their studies etc
when they feel that there is no support, they lose hope. when they lose hope, they feel that their existence is just being a pain to everyone, so might as well just disappear from the face of the earth.
there is also a genetic predilection to suicide. some people are more susceptible to depression, due to the lack of hormones like endorphin, GABA (?, i have to check my facts here) so some people are more susceptible compared to the others.
i am merely saying that when you want to accuse that someone for being stupid and rash, think again.
if you wanna understand how they came to that decision, give yourself an example:
say, for example, your most precious thing in life is your family.
you did something stupid, you let them down. for example you gambled your money away. all you are left is debts and debts all over again. you are left with all these debts and your wife/husband has to bear the burden as well. at a high cost.
can you imagine how the pain is? to see that your family suffer because of you? and it doesn't help that either your wife/husband keeps scolding you for being such a burden to a family?
you are left with no one. your family members look down on you. your friends might jeer or laugh at your stupidity.
your job isn't looking too good.
i can tell you, i wouldn't be surprised that the easy way out for this indiv is the suicide road.
though i STRONGLY do not recommend that. it's a stupid road. someone once said that " It's the easiest solution to a permanent problem"
i guess no amount of explaining would warrant.
all i appeal is that we have to think on both ways.
instead of discriminate, we have to understand and help solve the problem.
People tend to think the grass greener on the other side , but it's not for no one in this world lives a life that is forever carefree..................
This topic for me runs too deep and so i close my door on my thoughts.
As you stated Sab lets hope a better understanding of how to solve the problem and remove the myths.
Cheerz gal tcz
haha sweets..
perhaps we have silenced the audience??
horribly quiet over here..even desi is speechless?!
Yes indeed Sab
Did we scare them away ,or does Desi feel we've taken over Desiderata ;).
Anyway Gal i thank you gal for your input and trust to share :).
Cheerz n tcz
Hello dear Esteemed Readers:
It's okay if some vistors make themselves more than feel at home
This commnt is a Qukkie made on the run
Give me a TehSi, just for this (f)-pun
No, Desi's is not into F-words
Especially I'm o'lad' knottyORvorse
I'll be back by 8PM
Insya-Allah my GreAtOne guide me, Cheerioz till then.
9.15am Friday
Child wins at L've they say
I'd like to be One, if I may
Yan:
No worries -- tears are pleasing when Heaven showers us with the spirit to feel for fellow humna beings.
Toys and toy-boys, girls and boys --they form a highly Xplosive combo --Desi feels poential suicide ingredients sping from such combo -- so the Players and Guardians must learn the signs and danger signals there.
I'm no expert -- hence I have contacted the BefRienders to lend a voice here.
To Others gathered here while I'm away to mainly earn bread&butter, and some kaya thrown in -- I'm happy to se thee cmofy and home-y at Desi's. Pls continue to do so --Sabrina, kyels, Sweets -- for the sharing&caring. BIG THANKZ to Sab for the sharing -- Lament of a WoundedHeArt, no worries, you'll grow stronger, because you have fRiends around thee!
shen: seems this is thy first appearance here?
If yes, we are offer a piping hot TehTarik, kurang manis atau manis-manis? Make yourself comfy, wilya!
Come back for more, add susu lembu also can, for we have many I.Cowws lazing on the grassy patch here. To comfy the lawn has become, beautified&enhanted by one Cikgu Gardner from Bloom, Flower, Bloom!
See related post on Friday's Child posted as an EveningPost. Maaf ia, SS! A new challenge may be born soon...:)
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