Life's Choices

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Life’s Choices

By Sabrina Tan

Recent endeavours have led me to think that we are who we are because we made a choice.I believe I have written about this in my blog, but I believe that it’s a very important concept.

Yes, there are some things that have to be surrendered up to fate. However, there are also an equal number of things that has to be chosen by us. You have a choice to be who you are, what you want to do with your life.

I had dinner with a very good friend of mine here in New Zealand recently. She was narrating how she looked at her friends around her and she believed that they aren’t happy in their boy-girl-relationships. (BGR)

Being members of the Young, we often find ourselves being bogged down by BGR issues.
I have no idea why at times, but I guess it’s a part of growing up. I listened to her stories and realised that they too, have a choice on what they want to do with their lives. They have a choice to determine their own happiness.

They can either choose to get out of the relationship, or choose to be in that relationship and let it bog down their spirits and be not happy. Yes, it’s easier said than done when one decides to leave a relationship. There are many factors that we have to consider. Yet I also believe that if one truly wants something, he/she has the will to find a way and get around it.

Taking risks are the lessons that we have to face while walking the journey of Life.Back to my story above, these girls know the consequences on what is going to lead in either of those two paths. There is no right and wrong, but they can choose to be happy or be like this forever.

I have recently eliminated two characters out of my life because they betrayed my trust. It was a shame that I had to do it. I had no choice but to choose that road.
As I believe that for my own peace of mind, for my own sake, for my reputation and for my time I should choose the road that would be kinder to my heart and soul.

I made a choice. I wanted to be happy.

I wanted to at least alleviate the negative ‘chi’ out of my system and start having some positive ‘chi’ flowing into the right chakras (hope readers won’t get me wrong here).

So, are you prepared to make a choice? It’s not without risks. However, we learn through the risks. We are happier as we have learned with these risks. Go and make a choice for yourself.

Make a choice to be happier.



DESIDERATA: For many of us, we have at one time or another pondered over our own The Road Not Taken as wondered out loud by Robert Frost,an well-quoted poem often erroneously referred to as The Road Less Travelled!

We know that when Frost referred to the dilemma of selecting which road to proceed on arriving at the fork or any crossroads, when one had to choose one of two (sometimes more) paths, it represented not just the physical paths encountered in a walk through the woods. It was a symbol to the “hard choices” we often encountered in the course of life. At crucial times, we have had to “choose” between two or more options on arriving at an important crossroads; for instance, after high school: is it Science or Arts studies, or maybe pursue a professional course in law, accountancy, or medicine?

We as adults are supposed to guide the YoungerOnes, but from the way much of the adult world has gone upside down, or topsy turvy, or inside out -- I'm too sure the parents and neeighbourhood seniors, or even the church, temple or masjid elders are up to the task -- some can't even themselves find the way, so can theyreally guide the maturing flock? (Another rhetorical question, but a serio-o-u-u-s-sss one!)

Me, I have to confess, there have beeen many stumbles, mumbles, endless falls and pitfalls encountered along this short journey of Life. I've also made Choices -- most have been right, some wrong, one or two fatally wrong, on hindsight. So don't believe it if anyone tells you that he/she has had NO REGRETS! An "it" maybe, but he/she doesn't speak, does it? Oh, sorry, I forgot SHREK!
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I part with a few bars from Frank Sinatra's Way -- adopted by many worldwide, including a PM or me2 -- as I near the conclusion:

And now, the end is near;
And so I face the final curtain.
My friend, I’ll say it clear,
I’ll state my case, of which I’m certain.

I’ve lived a life that’s full.
I’ve traveled each and ev’ry highway;
And more, much more than this,
I did it my way.

Regrets, I’ve had a few;
But then again, too few to mention.
I did what I had to do
And saw it through without exemption.

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I’ve loved, I’ve laughed and cried.
I’ve had my fill; my share of losing.
And now, as tears subside,
I find it all so amusing.

To think I did all that;
And may I say - not in a shy way,
No, oh no not me,
I did it my way.



UPDATED at 9.09am: As SABRINA did me a fine deed GUESTING and taking care of this place, saving me some precious time this light&easy morn, I'd do some promotion for her, an esteemed mentee too. I know Sabrina has chosen Dentistry. Here I have a special message to YoungIgnorantCows: Have you pondered over your choices? If you are NiCe to Sabrina, she may yet offer to Mentor thee; so say Hi or Hello to her at http://sabrinawstan.blogspot.com.