ReAson, SeAson and Blooming Lifetimes

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DESIDERATA has found some time recently to peek at some fellow cyber-homes. I did MISbehave by stealing some flowers from some gardnerns in Blogosphere. In anticipation that I may face a Rakyat Court, hey, sometimes it's nice to appear courtly:)on charges of committing poetic Plagiarythm, I pre-emptively pleAd "guilty". With a Caveat (see BIG legal term!)that if the charitable owners don't mind:), Desi won't squeal:(

So as I tip-toed on some grass, some blooms resonated with my "When fRiends suddenly appear" (October 4, 2005), and I gave in to temptation to commit that first theft of a jewel from Blooom, Flowers, Bloom, at http://primroses.blogspot.com gardnern somewhere in bad, wolfish Koala Lumpur,in the Steal of Da Night (Thank God It's Friday, when the Polis are all away):

"***SUNDAY, DECEMBER 28, 2003

Are you a Reason, a Season or a Lifetime?

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are! They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part, or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered.

And now it is time to move on.

Then people come into your life for a SEASON because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They bring you an experience of peace, or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real!

But, only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons: Things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.

It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.***"


And the second theft is from http://sabrinawstan.blogspot.com
(she earlier stole it from one Yeats, I don't know him/her...playing safe here, can't say about the poet's gender without really knowing, can I?) This second nugget of a bloom provides a counterpoint to the third dish -- Patience before the desert, OK!

October 6, 2005

Brown Penny

I whispered, ‘I am too young,’
And then, ‘I am old enough’;
Wherefore I threw a penny
To find out if I might love.
‘Go and love, go and love, young man,
If the lady be young and fair.’
Ah, penny, brown penny, brown penny,
I am looped in the loops of her hair.

O love is the crooked thing,
There is nobody wise enough
To find out all that is in it,
For he would be thinking of love
Till the stars had run away
And the shadows eaten the moon.
Ah, penny, brown penny, brown penny,
One cannot begin it too soon.

So practising pseudo-journalism here, I attribute, extracting some parts only:

Sabrina wrote: "**"This is a poem that I happened to come across by William B Yeats.

"I am sure most of my intellectual, esteemed readers would know by now that this was about love, and in a sense letting go, moving on.

Go and love, go and love, young man.

Many times we as youngsters tend to hold on to our past too tightly. For some reason we weren’t able to forgive ourselves nor are we able to forgive the circumstances that happened.***"


To accomodate some I.Cows who are still under the age of consent, I do penance now shAring with thee some sweet desert from one of your peers which I did not "steal". Now reprising a gem of another bloom from the Borneo Post (Sunday October 9, 2005) where it was first budded. Courtesy or with courtsey from a YoungOne -- not so ignorant or insignificant -- called EAGLE WINGS, who continues her soaring to towering heights from the Land BeneAth the Wind. She shares some thoughts on human relationships, and the state of being single. She speaks frankly, and some views to my mind are mature beyond her upper secondary school age, a little precocious maybe, but definitely well argued and presented. Yes, be your own self. We are all born unique individuals, so DARE TO BE DIFFERENT.

Staying Single – What is your opinion?

IT is amazing how people in the olden days were able to tolerate the idea of match-making and live with their spouses for as long as it takes. In my opinion, staying single is the wisest decision anyone in the right mind should make.

Marriage is all about finding Mister or Miss Right and wanting to share lives together. However, hypocrisy has become the trend nowadays. Most people do not show their true personality to their partners before marriage. A twist shall be seen a few years after marriage when couples become abusive to one another. Hence, marriage has become a risk-taking ceremony instead of a life-long promise of happiness.

By staying single, we are actually lowering the probability of having to compete with others, experience hurt or rejection. Frankly speaking, what men want in a woman is not only a person who cares, but also someone who can feed their lust. Most couples get sick and tired of each other after a few years; signifying the beginning of the silent war. Men normally seek solace in younger women who are so naïve to believe their sweet nothings. This results in the tearing up of a once-happy family and younger women are blamed for the entangled mess.

Ever since the idea of marriage of convenience was introduced, the true meaning of marriage is lost in the midst of our demands. Since couples are legally married in this marriage, there is a great possibility that they will have children. However, a marriage without love is never going to last long. What if couples do not see eye to eye anymore and resolve in a divorce? This will increase the number of single parents and broken families in the country. Children will then suffer in deciding who they should follow after the separation of their parents. For all single parents, it shall be an extra burden to them to have to raise a child alone. Is it not simpler if we just remain single and need not undergo this sort of stressful situations?

Just have a look around; most mothers nowadays are career women who work 24/7. Humans are too embedded in the spirit of materialism. It is hard for mothers to carry out their duties thoroughly and be the breadwinner of the family. Their children are usually sent to child-care centres instead of receiving intensive guardianship of their parents. The traditional idea of having the mothers as the teachers of the children has become obsolete ever since man and woman are given equal rights to contribute to our society.

If parents can afford a professional nanny, things might be different. However, most nannies turn out to be their housekeepers or even their maids who do not meet the minimum requirement of raising successful kids. Children do not benefit much from that. Since most of us are not ready to make serious commitment to our soon-to-be-family, it is better to stay single.

Being married is not just about spending your life with your lover. It is also about accepting his/her family members. It is practically hard to live with in-laws especially when their life styles are totally different from yours. It is really taxing to have to live up to the standard your in-laws expect. Things get worse when you have to compete with your other favourite in-laws and when your mother-in-law is the type who practises favouritism.

Men normally expect their ladies to be as perfect as their mothers in all aspects or even better. Staying single actually eliminates the chances of experiencing all these unnecessary stress. We are able to live life the way we want it and we need not receive criticism from someone who has a different perspective towards life.

Freedom is the main thing that attracts people to remain single. Being single allows us to have a better social life since we do not have family ties (other than our initial family). More time will be put aside to fulfil our inner desires such as carrying out relaxing activities since we have all the time in the world to ourselves. The chance of making and meeting new groups of friends will also increase compared to those who are married. For example, if married women mingle with other men, they might land 0themselves in defence in a “battle zone” with their over-reacting jealous husbands shooting them with absolutely irrelevant questions. On the other hand, women might think their husbands are having affairs with other women especially when they are seldom seen at home. This actually restricts us from socialising well with others. Is it not tiring to live in a life of suspicion and be a victim of this unjust environment?

When we are married, every decision taken had to be considered by our family first. For instance, choosing a new house. The house has to fit everyone’s taste and liking and it has to be big enough to accommodate all the family members’ needs. However, if we are single, we can choose to live a simple life in a cottage in the country side, or in a luxurious-hill-top-house, a mobile house, or simply just living in a room that has all the facilities needed. It is all about living according to our life styles.

My conclusion is that there is no other better decision other than to be single in life in the 21st century. Being on dangerous grounds, I welcome all comments.


Desiderata:as BF entree Sundae morn, TRY THIS MINOR Spot The Error/Ellor CHALLENGIA dreAmed up last nite and posted up at 7.15AM

After reading johnleemk's spirited posting last night, I wrapped up this morning's sundae's BF with I.Cows just past midnight. Lingered for a chitchat with the gardner from whom I stole the first bloom on Friday night, clearing up some lalang, or lallang, clouding the seedings, or seedlings.

No, the Challengia is not so easy as to pick objective guesses of 1in2 -- LazyCow. Brudder Imran -- lembu-lembu masih komplen tak mau kerja OT-lah, hari Sundae, rest&relaks ni!

Okay, the REAL CHALLENGIA:

In Desi's writ(H)ings in between my three "stolen blooms", I commited an English graandma ellor -- butt I was at least CONSISTENT!
On first editing reading, I wanted to correct the ellor, but then Desi thinks it may actually turn out to be not so much an error after all.

So give me ONE ATTEMPT each, but with that RAT-tionale, mousey-one also-can!

PRIZE?
Depending on his mood, Desi wil think of one X..., I was thinking of Xpensive one, checked myself, checked the wallet -- it's joined the Lapdog for a walk, the lembu-lembu2!


There is sometimes sweet irony along the highways, byways and nooks&crannies of writin', ritin' and rightin' English. Go figure ... and the irony is I can't figure as the GoodDoc asks Desi to watch my prosperous waistline as I long to sign off this challengia for my CON BF waiting at Meng Kee Hawker Centre, just opposite TemiangCorner, also fronting Gerakan Hq-cum-KFC ... I'm detailing venue because last time I engaged with some mGf in banter, especially centred around one guest ABC's engaging CONversation,I had INVITED them to join Desi for DAT CON BF!:):):):):):):) 4, SE7EN helpings!!!!!!! No, one helping eAch, S'X guests expected!

Should you take on the offer, meet me at 8.30AM, about 48minutes from now (no, not the Challengia, DA CON BF!) pleAse bring along some AUS or NZ dollars,Rupiah also-can-lah! for Desi is now in desert territory!:(


PS: I know Sabrina and Imran were ENJOYING Saturday night without sleep, they already visited Desi's and posted up some knotty comments. I hope my I.Coww fRiends don't get influenced, a li'l OK=lah, not too hard! Bloody teAcher, how can you influence some1 too HARDie? Desi hears some voices whispering. Can you ppl raise your decibels, haven't taken your BF, isit?

For your own GooDEnglish health, please ignore the Update on the Challengia, it's NOT part of Da Queen's English lesson; otherWISE...there is no wisdom in continuing-lah, Howsy mGf who went MIA in the London fog telepathically told me.

CHOW!SE7EN times 2 pleAse!